Hey there guys, Ok i want your opinions and advice on this.

About 9 months ago, i was really good friends with this girl named Kim. She was pretty much my best friend when i first moved here to Connecticut. When i first met her i KINDA liked her but didnt know if she was a player or not, find out she is.

She has had a boyfriend for about 2 years, they have been on and off and broke up and had huge fights and such at least, and im not kidding, 100 times +

She was always complaining about shit, when i first met her she was broken up with him, which is what stired my pot in liking her. She was always complaing and bitching and drama drama drama which i got sick and tired of.

Through out our friendship she did find out that i kinda liked her, but seriously only the tiniest bit and that faded fast. When we continued our relationship when we would go out, ide always pay.

When i invited her out for sushi for lunch for the first time, she expected me to pay even though to her "It was just sushi" and we were just friend and wasnt even considered a miny date (this was when i first met her)

Now months go past, even though we still had a strong close relationship she always found ways i guess for me to pay in a way and use me..... (which i realised after of course)

Few months later:

Starting class again, meet this girl in my class, she becomes my GF, (now my Ex GF) wasnt jealous of her, but i think she always felt intimidated. So our friendship started to fade because she was than back with her BF again. Through out me and my GF's relationship Kim and her BF broke up again, started bitching. I couldnt stand it anymore, so i stopped talking to her because i didnt want that drama in my life anymore.


Present Day:

Im feeling great, No more immature ex GF and No more Drama Kim. Life has been great, but lately she has been trying to get back in contact with me and uses my friend in cali as well to try and get him to talk to me from her, which pisses him off.

Im going great in school at the moment, great group of friends and love having money to spend on myself.

I do miss kim as a good friend but honestly i dont want to have to talk or confront her explaining to her why i stopped, or how i truelly felt. I dont want to go down the path of her always wanting me around again, making my life complicated and tough and adding drama to it.

So i continue to stay away from her because i feel she played our relationship.

Thoughts? Advice? Anything guys?

Let me ask you this, what do you stand to gain and what do you stand to lose?

You speak the F*CKING truth.

I wont gain ANYTHING besides the fact that she can get me into clubs that are 21+ even though im 20 lol

I stand to lose a lot over time.
-My time
-My school work can be affected
-Ill have nothing but drama
-God knows how often ill have to pay for shit which i refuse too
-Instant C*CK blocks having a close girl - friend

Ty for helping me realize Chris, i already knew i wasn't going to go back to that shit, but just wanted to hear it from someone else

There you go. That's exactly the question that saved me from an infinite amount of shit when I was with the ex.

Also, you have way more to lose: equanimity and peace of mind. God, if there's one thing we don't need more of as human beings, its problems and drama, especially if she's just a friend.

yeah man, CHRiS said it perfectly. no doubt about it, i agree 100% very good sage advice man, he who is wise hath spoken

I think you should keep going the direction you are going with this. Your life is obviously better without her in it at the moment and it seems like everything would just go back downhill if you let her back in. If you do decide to reconnect with her, let her know that it is strictly just a friends thing and nothing more. Another possibility is to wait until she asks you out. That means that she is genuinely interested in getting back in touch with you. If you are the first one to make a move then she will continue to think she can use you and you will feel obligated to pay the bill or whatever price comes with the date.

Another side note: Girls are the worst thing to get involved with during school

Yah im gonna stick with it, i dont want her in my life

She manipulated my time so F*CKING much.

Ty god shes out of my life

Girls are the WORST thing to get involved with during school, i completely agree

Ill keep lookin fresh and fly n shit but i aint lookin haha

I'm gonna stay out of this one, bitches are the devil.

One night stands are where it's at.

this

I agree. Lol, after i broke up with my GF i decided i was going to become the token asshole and be a player cuz i can

Usually when i break up with someone or tell someone to F*CK off, I just cut them off and never go back. Don't see profit in doing a ho-down with the past.

yea I agree with Chris. Env all CT girls are in some way psychotic....atleast the ones Ive found.

you're lovely, don't down yourself :)

lawl. You could just tell her you don't want her. Ignoring people is bad. I may be fat and retarded but I've known a few girls who were interested in me and if you don't like them or just want to keep them at a distance tell them. don't beat around the bush, just tell them exactly how you feel. If I like a girl I tell her and get it over with. If a girl likes me and I don't like her I tell her sorry I'm not interested. Simple as being honest. you miss her but you don't want to pay..hmm..tell her you want to be friend but you don't want to listen to her bitch and complain about everything. it works for me.

Fixed!


In all seriousness your instincts are telling you to run but your dick keeps pausing you. Stop listening to your dick! Your instincts are almost always right so do the math and RUN!

Luff the thing is, I aint going to tell her i dont want her to be around me because it will be blown up and will take HOURS to explain to her and i dont want to give her the time and day to do so.

F*CKING bitch called my friend and was like can you talk to him for me please? I laughed and was like dude fuk that i told him about it and he couldn't agree more

I have stopped listening to my dick haha

I wish I could do that

Awesome, let's set the time and place

That girl would F*CK you from one side of the house to the other...you wouldnt know what the F*CK just happened to ur C*CK n balls.

It seems like this is something that's been on your mind a bit. I think that you should just sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel, and talk about why you've done the things that you've done. I'm sure she at least has a feeling as to why you've acted the way you have, so the best thing you could do is be honest--clear the air. You don't have anything to lose. Get what needs to be said, said; be honest, and get on with your life.